We see it all the time… a continual stream of guests coming up to the bride & groom’s table to chat with them – while the B&G have their entree in front of them and they’re trying to eat. To be polite, most B&Gs stop eating to chat with you. Less than ideal for many obvious reasons (they’re hungry, worked hard on picking out the menu over many months, food is getting cold, etc. etc.) but it also creates a situation where soon most of the guests are done eating and want to dance but the B&G aren’t finished, so dinner music continues and the dance party is delayed because they weren’t able to eat when everyone else was – even though they received their dinners first!
Seasoned DJs know the importance of developing a music profile on their clients – to learn the client’s favorite songs & genres as well as those that get under their skin. However, not every “favorite” song that a client has should be listed on a “must play” request list. Every good song you hear in your car or in a restaurant, along with every favorite song that you had in college won’t automatically “work” for the diverse group of people gathered for your wedding reception. But these are “MY” favorites and it’s “MY” wedding. Well, while being good/great songs in their own right – will they fit during any of the 3 main stages of the event: cocktails, dinner, or dancing. And will I definitely dance to this song (as the bride or groom)? You don’t have to pick cliche songs by any means, but are these the absolute BEST choices? Hard to know for certain until the event is underway as this group of people (in this exact configuration) has NEVER been together before in one room. The “read” and “vibe” of this group will change frequently.
Taken as a whole is your request list too narrow? Are you open to material that will get your parents generation dancing? Is there too much of one genre on the list and none of popular others? Are you a party music expert? Any experienced DJ will tell you that too often request lists are overly filled with songs that when played Do Not pack the dance floor with guests. Furthermore, most brides and grooms Do Not dance to the very requests that they compiled. This makes for a very mediocre party. Don’t feel that you have to give your DJ 30, 40, 50 or more songs. Pick your ALL TIME FAVORITES that you will definitely dance to and trust the DJ with your overall “vision”. Find a DJ whose knowledge base is so wide that you know you are going to be impressed. Respect and make use of what they’ve seen at events and in the end hire someone who you feel you can trust to make good judgement calls throughout the night.
In the end however, if you feel that you must pick out EVERY SONG for the entire event… we rent a DIY system for $249.
Interesting listing compiled by Ian Zelaya at BizBash. Some of these points like the bouquet are garter toss have been nearly extinct among CNY brides for a few years now – however the others are gaining in popularity with our couples as well. Give it a look… https://www.bizbash.com/8-wedding-traditions-millennials-are-dropping/los-angeles/story/34662?mkt_tok=eyJpIjoiWmpGa01tRTJaR0pqWXpNdyIsInQiOiJkQ2tGRFZuWmdIUHdvN0JuTWRPQzZDcm1vclVRQ1U1S2lod1hJcXZlVFpJdTZkcHE2MlRqclRRelA3aXd0d3FubHRqYklWb0RQckNIS3VIbHU4XC9uYnlyWGZveGZMWjdvYktHcExKdWdYRVYwdmh0aEhJMzYrQXc5VHJyNGlXNTMifQ%3D%3D#.WeanL2hSxPY
Click the link below to go to TheKnot.com’s “Pro Feed” of wedding news and goings-on. Is your first dance one of these songs?
Here is a link to an interesting listing compiled by TheKnot.com laying out the average ages in 2017 of brides and grooms https://b2b.xogroupinc.com/2017/03/16/average-age-of-a-bride-and-groom-is-on-the-rise/?utm_campaign=Newsletter&utm_source=hs_email&utm_medium=email&utm_content=46211422&_hsenc=p2ANqtz–q2WGZwe690rJg1VYNBvlLECQi3QBqGH1sipvc2xY1WEji2m6wJKPRHjjNLVECrN6418KBIRvl_uJmuio-Yx-_JgsJXQ&_hsmi=46211422
Brides: Age 29
Grooms: Age 31
BTE Guest Tip #2 – Don’t bother the bride & groom while they’re eating
At some weddings we see this just a few times during dinner, other times there’s an endless stream of people approaching the bride & groom’s sweetheart/head table throughout the meal. Most brides & grooms will stop eating/not eat while you’re chatting with them which at a minimum allows their wedding meal to get cold and for the two of them to stay hungry. Of course you’re excited to see them and maybe didn’t have a chance to speak with them during cocktail hour but when compounded by multiple “offenders” this constant visitation leads to a peculiar scenario – all of the guests are done with their meals (and ready to dance) and the B&G have barely started. What comes next… a delay as you can’t start a dance party when the guests of honor are just starting to eat their meal. Most guests greatly dislike a prolonged period of being done with their meal and the dance party not shifting into high gear. Don’t be the cause of this :)))
There will be plenty of time to chat with the bride & groom … on the dance floor after dinner.
If you are in the market for wedding vendors make your way to Syracuse Wedding’s bridal show Sunday, January 15, 2017 at the OnCenter in downtown Syracuse from 12-4pm. Syracuse Bridal Show – January 2017
Stop by our booth to meet our staff, get referrals, and discuss the atmosphere and vibe you’re looking to create for your wedding.
Hope to see you there.
After working 3000+ weddings since 1990, we’ve noticed more than a few things that can help or hinder an event – we’ll try to make this an ongoing series of posts.
BTE Guest Tip #1 – Don’t leave with just a few minutes left in the party.
You’ve dedicated the day to celebrate with this couple. You have probably shopped for a great outfit to wear, invested time and money to travel to the venue and now with just a few songs left you pull the bride & groom off the dance floor to say “goodbye”. Maybe you are not a dancer, maybe you’re tired, have a long drive home, or have had too much. However, what you’re probably not realizing is that this prohibits the bride & groom from fully enjoying the final minutes of their once in a lifetime event. As their party ends on a high note with all their friends on the dance floor, they’re missing it because you needed to leave at 10:52pm instead of 11:01pm. If you’ve stayed until the final few minutes, stay ’til the end.
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